GMFA Pain when having sex Although the prostate gland (aka the male G-spot) is situated inside the arse, and, once reached the sensation is quite exciting, getting a cock up there to reach it can sometimes be quite painful. There are many nerve endings in your arse, so when a dick (or a toy) enters your bumhole , you can sometimes feel a sharp pain which can cause your arse to tense up and close, making it that much more difficult and painful to get fucked. Don’t worry though, there are a few ways to reduce the pain when getting fucked so that you can maximise your pleasure. RelaxIf you are relaxed, then you will find it easier and more comfortable to get fucked. Deep breathing can help you to relax and allows the arse to relax too. Take your time and make sure you feel comfortable, physically and emotionally. If you're feeling tense or pressured, it's going to be harder for you to enjoy yourself. If you're struggling to accommodate his cock, try clenching your sphincter muscles around it, and then letting them relax. Rimming and foreplayHaving your arse rimmed before you get fucked is a very good way to make you more relaxed and get you horny enough to get fucked by him. Getting a finger or two up your arse can also help ‘open you up’ to accommodate your partner’s cock. Foreplay can really help relax the sphincters and allow you to enjoy your partner’s cock once it’s inside you. Use plenty of lubeUsing plenty of water-based or silicone-based lube on your arse (as well as on your partner’s cock) makes it easier for the penis to slide inside you. While you get fucked, it is sometimes necessary for your partner to pull out and apply more lube on his cock and on your arse – don’t be shy on the lube! Avoid using creams, butter or oils, especially if using latex condoms as they tend to tear the condoms, leaving you exposed to STIs such as HIV. They also dry up quickly and can make it painful for you to get fucked.Communication with your partnerGood communication is the key to getting fucked. Your partner can’t really feel if you are in pain when he puts his cock inside you, so you will have to make him aware of how you are feeling so that you can both enjoy the experience. You can do this verbally or by implying it through moaning seductively, changing positions etc. Remember that getting fucked should be just as much a pleasurable experience for the bottom as it should be for the top. If you’re not enjoying it, let him know. Training your arseYou can ‘train’ your arse to take a cock easier by fingering yourself of or by letting your partner finger you. You can also use toys, like dildos or vibrators to get your arse used to getting something in there. Start out with smaller toys and build your way up. Use plenty of lube and most importantly - take your time! Different positionsThe position you’re in is going to have an impact on the speed of your partner’s thrusting and some positions are going to be easier for you to relax in, so some positions are less likely to hurt than others. Experiment to find what position is most comfortable for you and your partner, as different positions will be more comfortable for different couples, depending on the angle of the erection and the curvature of the penis. Any position where your knees are bent and drawn into your chest, whether you are kneeling, lying on your back or on your side, will probably lead to a more comfortable fuck, or will be a good position to start from. This position will straighten out the anal canal and the pubo-rectal sling will draw back to allow smoother entry to the arse.