By Ian Howley | Chief Executive of LGBT HERO |  @ianhowley

What do you think when you hear the words “Shocking stats show LGBTQ+ people more likely to be depressed and suicidal”? Chances are you take a deep breath and casually say to yourself “Why am I not surprised?” 

That’s because the chances are you are one of the many LGBTQ+ people who have at some point battled with depression or suicidal thoughts. It’s the same for me. 

My last suicide attempt was on 21 April 2000. At age 16 I tried to end it all because I was stuck in a deep depression due to my sexuality. I hated being gay. I hated myself and I wanted a way out. It wasn’t my first attempt either. I tried to kill myself at age 13 and 14 too. 

It’s difficult to look back now and relate to that young boy looking for a way out. My life has changed so much since April 2000. At the time it felt like I was the only person in the world feeling that way. I thought everyone was going to hate me because of my sexuality. I didn’t see a future – well, actually I did. I thought it was going to be a miserable and lonely one. I thought I’d never be in a relationship or have any meaningful friends. 

The sad fact is that now with a wealth of knowledge of what LGBTQ+ people go through, I know I wasn’t the only one feeling that way. I’ve heard many stories throughout the years from LGBTQ+ people who say to me “I’ve had the same experience.” And it’s not till you live a little look back that you see that many of us seemed to have had a similar journey. And the fact that’s not shocking is shocking in itself.

How has it come to the point where we as a community accept that being depressed or suicidal at some point in our lives is like a ‘rite of passage’? How is it that when another survey is released saying we are ‘more likely to try and kill ourselves than our straight peers’ we shrug our shoulders and move on. It’s what life is like for LGBTQ+ people, isn’t it? Now that’s a sad thought. 

Over the past several years we've seen an increase in LGBTQ+ people feeling suicidal. I personally know of 11 suicides over the last few years from people within the LGBTQ+ community. In 2021 we surveyed over 2200 LGBTQ+ people all things health and wellbeing. What we found was worrying amounts of LGBTQ+ people reported feeling suicidal or have attempted suicide:

  • 35% (one in three) of respondents reported feeling suicidal
  • 6% reported a suicide attempt
  • Trans and gender diverse people were three times as likely to attempt suicide in the last year than cis people (12% vs 4%)
  • 46% (almost half) of under 25s have felt suicidal in the previous year
  • 14% of under 18s have attempted suicide in the previous year, of these, 53% were trans or gender diverse

But why do LGBTQ+ experience higher rates of feeling suicidal? A study by PACE (who do not exist anymore) found that early experiences of ‘feeling different’ appear to create vulnerability and are a key factor in developing low self-esteem for LGBTQ+ people. In our survey people cited ‘low self-esteem’ as the main reason for their depression and suicidal thoughts. Low self-esteem has also been identified as a factor as to why people do drugs, drink more alcohol, have poor body image issues and have risky sex, to name just a few. 

I don’t know about you, but It’s clear to me that something major needs to be done about tackling suicide in our community. But what can be done? I don’t have the magic answer. It’s easy to ask the question. It’s difficult to find the answer. One thing is for sure – we need to work on helping LGBTQ+ people, and especially young LGBTQ+ people, feel better about themselves. The first thing to do when trying to fix a problem is admitting you have one. So, hello LGBTQ+ people... we have a problem. 

Ian is the CEO of LGBT HERO. You can follow Ian on twitter: @IanHowley